His Needs, Her Needs

Every Married Couple Should Read This Book This is truly an amazing book, and I highly recommend it to both husbands and wives. Although I believe it speaks especially well to men, the principles are valuable for anyone who wants to build a stronger, healthier marriage. One of the things I appreciated most is that the author uses real-life examples from different couples (with their identities changed for privacy). These stories make the lessons practical, relatable, and easy to apply. What really stood out to me is the workbook at the end of the book, especially The 10 Most Important Emotional Needs and the Recreational Enjoyment Inventory. My wife and I have been married for about two and a half years, and while we already knew we enjoyed spending time together, these exercises helped us discover just how compatible we truly are. They identified the things we naturally enjoy and gave us a deeper understanding of each other. Whether your marriage is thriving or struggling, this book has something valuable to offer. If your marriage is going through a difficult season, I encourage you to read this book and work through it together before giving up. It provides practical tools to strengthen communication, better understand each other’s emotional needs, and reconnect as husband and wife. Most importantly, put God at the center of your marriage. Love is worth fighting for, and investing in your relationship is always worthwhile. I highly recommend this book to every married couple, no matter what stage of marriage you’re in.

I personally learned so much from reading this book. I found the book so helpful that I began purchasing copies as wedding gifts. One couple later thanked me. They said they committed to reading and working through the book together just days after their wedding and it has helped them initiate conversations that they hadn’t thought to have, see things from the others perspective, and understand the importance of prioritizing certain aspects within their marriage. I wish my husband and I had this book prior to marrying. Many of our struggles could have been avoided.

His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last* proved to be a meaningful addition to my relationship with my wife. It arrived in great condition, was reasonably priced, and offered clear, practical insight into how couples can nurture lasting love. Concise, honest, and helpful — it’s a small purchase with a big impact on how we show up for each other.

I bought this book as a bridal shower gift for my best friend after I listened to it on audible. I absolutely enjoyed this book, I have listened to it on audible twice and plan to listen a third time. It is good to help you understand the potential needs of your partner and to simply understand them period.

This book, although a bit dated, has lots of good material for couples to consider. It can supply some productive talking points, such as what you each need to feel loved. I think it is helping us through a rough patch.

Started reading this book and it has a very distinctive outlook on your relationship

His Needs, Her Needs is a powerful and practical guide for strengthening relationships and marriages. Dr. Harley does an excellent job of breaking down the 10 vital emotional needs of men and women in a way that’s clear, relatable, and actionable. The examples and stories throughout the book make it easy to see how these principles play out in real life, and the strategies for meeting each other’s needs are simple to understand yet deeply impactful. What I love most is how balanced the book feels—it doesn’t just point out problems, it gives real solutions that couples can use right away to build trust, intimacy, and long-lasting love. Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this book provides insights that can truly transform your relationship. Highly recommended for anyone who wants to make their marriage stronger and more fulfilling.

What a wonderful workbook! I bought a copy for myself and for my husband. We would read a chapter or so a night then talk about the questions and things in the. Chapter. Really a great way to spark conversation and remind you what’s important in your marriage and how to communicate. We’ve both made our share of mistakes and been married 35 years. We were in a rut on the inside even though to the rest of the world we looked like the perfect couple. We wanted to actually BE that! We shed a lot of tears, got angry over each others mistakes and are working through the hurt, anger and all the other emotions that come along with that! But - is it worth it? For us yes. We decided we still love each other and want to rekindle the spark. It’s been about 9 weeks and we’ve really both seen tremendous change in each other and are committed to talking every single day about ourselves, our marriage, and all the things you talk about when you’re dating or engaged. The things that got lost. No the book didn’t solve everything. There’s still the hurt, guilt, anger and sadness. But it’s managed and we know how to support each other when those moments come up) (ie: your watching a movie and there’s a scene that’s a reminder to what one of us has done) and instead of ignoring it or becoming defensive we pause the movie we talk and sometimes cry or let the anger out - and we work through it now. It takes work and commitment but if you want to repair the relationship it’s a really good book!!!! Have a highlighter and pen and make it your own!

Wonderful book. Dust read for all couples

Fue un regalo para recién casados. Buenos consejos.

First of all, you should know why you are buying it - It is a good read for anyone who wants to take some tips and implement them to improve matrimony relationship. You can understand the different needs and misunderstandings. Though the entire text might not be useful or related, as it is based on the cultural domain of the author, and might not match the exact situations / it has some universal ideas which can lead to a better relationship. Overall it is worth reading!